The natural compassion and love of the heart (which cares for ourselves & others in the times of difficulties) has to be balanced with the wisdom of equanimity. If we fall too far into compassion and love without the balance of wisdom and equanimity, we can begin to be attached to the way things should be, and – as a result – overwhelmed by the struggle of others.
The wise one sees things as they are, without the wish to control them. With equanimity we surrender our illusion of control. We should love and care for others, assist them, and pray for them. But we cannot control what will happen. And we cannot possess other people – we do not own our children, our lovers, and our friends …
We can love and care for our dearest, but the their happiness and suffering depends on their actions, and not on our wishes for them.
It is not in your hands to save the world.
Peace is not an absence of change or difficulty. Equanimity is not withdrawal or indifference. True equanimity is openness, balance and ease. True equanimity is a vast stillness in the midst of this ever changing world.
The wise one sees things as they are, without controlling them. She is balanced in the centre of her life – she has surrendered her illusions of control.
The only thing certain is that things are uncertain: this is the wisdom insecurity, this is the foundation for equanimity.